damn post.... if you go back everything that was previously on the page should still be there damnit.... so what i was saying... sigh....  alright.... i believe in free love.  what does this mean you might ask (or maybe not)?  this means that i believe there are two sides to our relationships with other people.  1. emotional/intellectual  2.physical   this forms how much we like people.  people that we dont find emotional/intellectual attractive or physically attractive we do not like or associate ourselves with.  people that we find emotionally/intellectually attractive but not physically attractive we become friends with but do not ever have anything more.  the people that we find physically attractive but not emotionally/intellectually attractive are the ones that people have one night stands with or things of that sort... (sex without any attachment).  the people that we find emotionally/intellectually and physically attractive to are the ones we date (or try to anyways).  so where does free love fall into this big mess.... but of course.... the people we find solely physically attractive.  our society looks down on having one nights stands or indulging ourselves in people that we only find physically attractive.  this is ridiculous... our society does not look down on indulging ourselves in the cerebral fruits of people we only find emotionally/intellectually attractive.  there is no difference.   i believe the reason it is looked down on is the strong undercurrent in our society of christian morals (monogamy).  talk is fun so we have friends outside our "dating relationships" to talk with.  sex is fun.. why don't we have people outside our "dating relationships" for solely that.  yes yes yes i know our mate gives us sex but he/she also gives us the emotional/intellectuality we look for in friends and we still have friends while dating....  there is no difference.  so this is how it works.  two people that find eachother attractive should be able to have sex with eachother without any commitment.  if one of the two people can't do that then it is impossible to solely have a physical relationship.  so if either of them is dating then they can not have sex with eachother.  if they are not then the couple obviously has potential to be a "couple".  it should not matter whether we are attached or not people should be able to have sex (if it is solely sex) with other people they find attractive that are in agreement.  we need to forget our socialization and look at this how it is.... people like sex so just do it. ---- well anyways the reason i was thinking about this belief in the first place is because i have discussed it with other people and it seems as if no one understands it (truly understands it) they just call me a pervert that is only concerned with sex.  c'mon now though is there anyone that isn't sexually frustrated to some extent.  our society breeds sexual frustration and we have the power to change it (free love). just as we can walk up to a stranger and start a conversation without either thinking much of it so it should be with sex.