so oddly enough today i was reading my psych book and discovered the affliction i was discussing earlier... it's called "learned heplessness". an experiment was done with dogs and they would put one set of dogs through pain that could stop the pain and another that could not then when both dogs were put in different situations in which they could stop the pain in a different way the dogs that couldn't stop the pain earlier, would just put up with it while the other dogs avoided it.  also it has been shown in students... when they get math problems they can't do they will continue to not try on easier problems... this is all a brief summary... but i think it gives everyone the idea