so a self-improvement post:  i don't know whether it is ok for me to be so passionate about the actions and beliefs of others.  i've become a lot more accepting of religious but most of them i can not put on the same level as people i respect as intellectuals.  simply because i can not understand how people can be religious.  although spiritual people are a whole different story.  it's the dogma that gets me.  there are other things though that truly bother me.  it is silly to be bothered by other people though in any ways so that is not what i'm talking about changing, that is obvious.  i'm curious whether it is ok to even consider the actions or opinions of others.  for one, as long as i am considering them i think i will feel some emotion towards what they believe or how they act thus making it impossible for me to not be bothered sometimes at least. two, people will be what they will be and if i am constantly discounting them for things then i will end up very lonely.  although the counter argument is that there are lots of things i don't like that i don't discount people for, only the things that are more important to me.  i would also say it is an integral part of me to expect more out of myself other people and the world, so it is easy easy to be upset with other people when they don't make those cuts.  i guess i shouldn't discount other people so much as just accept i can't be happy with them or befriend/appreciate them if they don't share the qualities i find most important.  so the real question is how you stop letting other things bring you down that you find important.  things you are passionate about.  how do you accept that the world isn't going to accept peace without it really bothering you.  isn't the fact that it bothers me the very reason i'm passionate about it.  but there is no reason for things out of your control to bother you.